When we grieve, we can feel the we lose all track of time and reality. The smallest and simplest of tasks can feel impossibly difficult. Finding and engaging in simple rituals can really help. https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/03/in-grief-try-personal-rituals/284397/ Researchers Michael I. Norton and Francesca Gino at Harvard Business School wanted to know how people cope with extreme loss. In… Continue reading The power of rituals
Dealing with scary thoughts in the peripartum can be really challenging. Much thanks to Karen Kleiman for this extract from her book Dropping the Baby and Other Scary Thoughts, with ideas on how to manage those scary intrusive thoughts. Dealing with scary thoughts is not just a matter of willpower, as some claim. Although willpower… Continue reading “When your mind races”
We psychologists do love to recommend a bit of gratitude journalling as part of our interventions. The reasons for this is simple: the research clearly shows it helps. Read more on how being grateful, and attending to our gratitude helps sooth our distressed minds https://www.mindful.org/gratitude-changes-brain/?utm_content=bufferf5af1&utm_medium=social&utm_source=facebook.com&utm_campaign=buffer
I am aware that quite a few regular readers of this blog are actually other helping professions, so I have decided it is timely to include some resources specifically for them. Working as a counsellor can be tough too, and it is really important that we remember to take care of ourselves, even if only… Continue reading Self care for workers in the helping professions
Getting enough sleep is critical for our physical and psychological wellbeing. If you are struggling with sleep, be it falling asleep, staying asleep, or getting good quality sleep, the hints in this video might help https://www.facebook.com/mamamia/videos/10154856765445945/
If only I had a dollar for every time I've been asked that question! I think the evidence on this is really contentious, and there are so many variables that make it a really hard question to answer definitively, but one thing is certain - telling someone who is stressed and upset that they should… Continue reading Does it really help to “relax” when you are trying to get pregnant?
If there are 2 questions that torment new parents more than any other, they must be: 1) is my baby getting enough to eat? 2) is my baby getting enough sleep? Particularly when we are trying to function on a sleep defunct ourselves during that newborn stage, it can be really hard to work out… Continue reading How much sleep does your baby need?
Quite frequently, I speak to women who are feeling incredibly guilty and anxious about the fact they dislike the experience pregnancy, and sometimes, they are lacking any sense of connectedness to the baby growing inside their bellies. These women have usually heard/read all the stories about "mummy love" this feeling that all women are supposed… Continue reading What does it mean if I don’t like being pregnant?
Anyone who has had the experience of having a brand new baby in the house will remember the agony of those first 6 or so weeks where you are so totally sleep deprived you spend most of the time feeling like you are having an out of body experience. For most new parents you just… Continue reading Parenthood and sleep deprivation
Have you been feeling like your self esteem is not quite as robust as you would like? Recent research has been suggesting that mindfulness can play a part in building a more positive self esteem by reducing the degree to which we compare ourselves (critically) to those around us. Read more about this research here. https://www.mindful.org/feeling-self-critical-try-mindfulness/?utm_content=buffer02ef7&utm_medium=social&utm_source=facebook.com&utm_campaign=buffer