fertility, grief, miscarriage, Parenting, perinatal, pregnancy, pregnancy loss

The overwhelming anxiety of a pregnancy after loss

So many of the women and men I speak with are coming to terms with having lost their much wanted and loved babies - sometimes at a relatively early stage in the pregnancy, and sometimes right at the end, in an unexpected term stillbirth. Parents who should be celebrating their joy, find themselves trying to… Continue reading The overwhelming anxiety of a pregnancy after loss

mental health, Parenting, perinatal, pregnancy

What does it mean if I don’t like being pregnant?

Quite frequently, I speak to women who are feeling incredibly guilty and anxious about the fact they dislike the experience pregnancy, and sometimes, they are lacking any sense of connectedness to the baby growing inside their bellies.  These women have usually heard/read all the stories about "mummy love" this feeling that all women are supposed… Continue reading What does it mean if I don’t like being pregnant?

fertility, Fertility Resources and Links, LGBTI Parenting, surrogacy

Domestic surrogacy explained

Have you been wondering what the process is for surrogacy in Australia?  This short video with ANZICA counsellor Katrina and repeat altruistic surrogate Rachel really helps explain the process for altruistic surrogacy in Australia.https://au.tv.yahoo.com/the-daily-edition/video/watch/35694649/non-compensation-surrogacy-explained/#page1

health, In the news, mental health

Gratitude

I know I share a lot of articles and information on this blog - because that's the primary reason I started it. But this morning I thought it might be nice to make it a little more personal and show that (at least some of the time) I do try to practice what I preach.  And… Continue reading Gratitude

grief, In the news, mental health, Parenting

Helping kids cope with traumatic news

Its is beginning to feel like every time we turn on the TV, radio or social media, there is another terrible event being reported, and with the advent of 24 hour, 7day a week news services, it is a little inescapable.  All of this bad news can feel terrible for adults, but for kids the… Continue reading Helping kids cope with traumatic news

fertility, Fertility Resources and Links, Parenting, surrogacy, Uncategorized

Positive surrogacy perspectives

The VARTA website is a goldmine for resources and personal stories of families undertaking fertility treatment, including donor conception and surrogacy. One of my absolute favourites is this one, which provides an opportunity for 3 members of the one family to tell their surrogacy stories - the child, the mum and the surrogate.  I have… Continue reading Positive surrogacy perspectives

fertility, Fertility Resources and Links, surrogacy

Surrogacy legal checklist

This resource has been around for a little while now, but it doesn't stop it being incredibly helpful for anyone exploring the option of undertaking a domestic surrogacy arrangement.  This checklist really helps you to consider the legal issues of any surrogacy arrangement to be undertaken at home - it certainly doesn't replace legal advice,… Continue reading Surrogacy legal checklist

mental illness

More on mental illness and stigma

I just watched the most beautiful piece of television - an interview between Anh Do and Kurt Fearnley, where these 2 engaging, positive men talked about Kurt's incredible life and his sporting achievements.  They also discussed some of the stigma he has experienced as a man living with a mobility disability.  http://iview.abc.net.au/programs/anhs-brush-with-fame This stunning interview got… Continue reading More on mental illness and stigma

mental illness

Let’s talk about mental illness

Its been an interesting few weeks at work for me as I have encountered a few friends and family of clients who still don't seem to believe that mental illness is real.  After all these years as a psychologist, I really do still find it astonishing that some people still seem to put depression and… Continue reading Let’s talk about mental illness

mental health

What exactly is Positive Psychology?

Some people think the key to feeling better is just 'Thinking happy thoughts' but we know it really isn'tthat simple. Positive Psychology however has a whole range of helpful strategies which can assist in preventing mental illness as well as helping us to recover if we do become unwell.  http://www.sbs.com.au/topics/life/health/article/2017/05/24/what-exactly-positive-psychology-and-how-can-you-use-it