health, mental health, mental illness, New baby, Parenting, perinatal

“When your mind races”

Dealing with scary thoughts in the peripartum can be really challenging.  Much thanks to Karen Kleiman for this extract from her book Dropping the Baby and Other Scary Thoughts, with ideas on how to manage those scary intrusive thoughts. Dealing with scary thoughts is not just a matter of willpower, as some claim. Although willpower… Continue reading “When your mind races”

fertility, grief, miscarriage, New baby, Parenting, perinatal, pregnancy, pregnancy loss

“To the girl who hated my pregnancy announcement”

The announcement of a pregnancy by another woman/couple tends to bring terrible pain to someone who is struggling with their fertility, or has recently experienced an obstetric loss.  It isn't that they mean ill to the happily pregnant woman, it is more that that her joy makes their sadness feel even greater.  It's a really… Continue reading “To the girl who hated my pregnancy announcement”

donor conception, fertility, fertility preservation, New baby, Parenting, perinatal, pregnancy, Solo mums

Solo parenting

As more and more people choose to become parents on their own using fertility treatment, it is great to see stories like this one hitting the mainstream media.  A few weeks ago, SBS's excellent program Insight highlighted the experience of becoming a solo parent.  The episode is available to watch here http://www.sbs.com.au/news/insight/tvepisode/solo-parents "This is absolutely Plan A.… Continue reading Solo parenting

fertility, perinatal, pregnancy, surrogacy

Marce Society Conference 2017

If you work in the area of perinatal mental health, don't miss this year's Marce Society in Brisbane in October. I am thrilled to announce that I will be presenting a paper based on the learnings I gained from my Churchill Fellowship into Cross border surrogacy, (and a little nervous as the standard of papers… Continue reading Marce Society Conference 2017

donor conception, fertility, fertility preservation, Fertility Resources and Links, IVF risks, New baby, Parenting, perinatal, pregnancy, Solo mums

Resource for solo mums

After yesterday's post about recent research that has shown the children of solo mums do no worse than those raised in heterosexual couples, it seemed timely to let you know about this new book: Dream Come True, The story of a single woman conceiving via donor conception. 

donor conception, fertility, fertility preservation, Fertility Resources and Links, IVF risks, LGBTI Parenting, Parenting, perinatal, pregnancy, Solo mums, surrogacy

What should you expect from your fertility clinic?

Yesterday I shared a list of tips of how to get the most from your fertility care, as suggested by the European Society of Human Reproduction and Embryology (ESHRE). Today I would like to share another resource published by ESHRE which they view as the minimum standard of care you should expect to be getting… Continue reading What should you expect from your fertility clinic?

donor conception, fertility, fertility preservation, Fertility Resources and Links, IVF risks, LGBTI Parenting, Parenting, perinatal, pregnancy, Solo mums, surrogacy

Advice for patients seeking fertility assistance

I have just come across this document published by The European Society of Human Reproduction and Embryology (ESHRE) which outlines some really fabulous hints and tips for getting the most out of your fertility care.  The document has been put together by some of world leaders in psychosocial fertility support, and it shows - the… Continue reading Advice for patients seeking fertility assistance

donor conception, fertility, fertility preservation, IVF risks, Parenting, perinatal, pregnancy, Solo mums

What is your chance of conceiving, based on your age?

The data around fertility rates has varied over the years, but the Medical Journal of Australia has just published new statistics on the chance of conception (using IVF) based on age - and for women aged over 40, the news is not great.  Although these statistics aren't really much different from what most people who… Continue reading What is your chance of conceiving, based on your age?

grief, miscarriage, Parenting, perinatal, pregnancy loss

The unbearable grief for the loss of a baby

This video really describes the agony experienced by parents who lose a child.  I congratulate Rob and his family in the bravery they demonstrate in making their story public, and wish them well as they negotiate the coming months and years without their baby. https://au.tv.yahoo.com/sunrise/video/watch/36362107/grieving-parents-shouldnt-have-to-suffer-in-silence/?cmp=st#page1

fertility preservation, LGBTI Parenting, Relationships, transgender

Transgender kids

This is the most beautiful story of a family adjusting to their son becoming their daughter.  The world is often intolerant of transgender people - perhaps as a result of fear or understanding, but I think that this video explains the transgender experience simply, and respectfully. https://www.facebook.com/bbcnews/videos/10155229343610659/ Watching my son become my daughter.