health, mental health, mental illness, New baby, Parenting, perinatal

“When your mind races”

Dealing with scary thoughts in the peripartum can be really challenging.  Much thanks to Karen Kleiman for this extract from her book Dropping the Baby and Other Scary Thoughts, with ideas on how to manage those scary intrusive thoughts. Dealing with scary thoughts is not just a matter of willpower, as some claim. Although willpower… Continue reading “When your mind races”

fertility, fertility preservation, IVF risks, miscarriage, New baby, Parenting, perinatal, pregnancy, Solo mums

Thinking of freezing your eggs… just in case?

An increasing number of women are now exploring the option of egg freezing as fertility "insurance". But does it really stack up to "ensure" that wanted baby in years to come?  This article does a good job at exploring the pros and cons of egg freezing. http://www.abc.net.au/news/2017-07-31/egg-freezing-helping-women-delay-motherhood-but-risk-missing-out/8737308?sf102297805=1 Consultant Simone Campbell from the City Fertility Centre in… Continue reading Thinking of freezing your eggs… just in case?

fertility, grief, miscarriage, New baby, Parenting, perinatal, pregnancy, pregnancy loss

“To the girl who hated my pregnancy announcement”

The announcement of a pregnancy by another woman/couple tends to bring terrible pain to someone who is struggling with their fertility, or has recently experienced an obstetric loss.  It isn't that they mean ill to the happily pregnant woman, it is more that that her joy makes their sadness feel even greater.  It's a really… Continue reading “To the girl who hated my pregnancy announcement”

mental health, mental illness, perinatal

Gratitude

We psychologists do love to recommend a bit of gratitude journalling as part of our interventions.  The reasons for this is simple: the research clearly shows it helps.  Read more on how being grateful, and attending to our gratitude helps sooth our distressed minds https://www.mindful.org/gratitude-changes-brain/?utm_content=bufferf5af1&utm_medium=social&utm_source=facebook.com&utm_campaign=buffer

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The donor experience

Although this story is from an American site (so the information is not completely relevant to the Australian context) I still feel that it gives a good perspective on some of the unexpected reactions that may occur for a woman who decides to become an egg donor. Remember that in Australia, there is NO paid/compensated… Continue reading The donor experience

donor conception, fertility, fertility preservation, New baby, Parenting, perinatal, pregnancy, Solo mums

Solo parenting

As more and more people choose to become parents on their own using fertility treatment, it is great to see stories like this one hitting the mainstream media.  A few weeks ago, SBS's excellent program Insight highlighted the experience of becoming a solo parent.  The episode is available to watch here http://www.sbs.com.au/news/insight/tvepisode/solo-parents "This is absolutely Plan A.… Continue reading Solo parenting

fertility, grief, IVF risks, miscarriage, Parenting, perinatal, pregnancy, pregnancy loss

Can we predict miscarriage risk?

A new study (with findings presented at the recent ESHRE conference) has suggested that blood tests within days of embryo transfer in IVF patients might help predict which patients are most likely to miscarry in  the first trimester.  While some people might prefer not to know, this could be a really important piece of information… Continue reading Can we predict miscarriage risk?

fertility, perinatal, pregnancy, surrogacy

Marce Society Conference 2017

If you work in the area of perinatal mental health, don't miss this year's Marce Society in Brisbane in October. I am thrilled to announce that I will be presenting a paper based on the learnings I gained from my Churchill Fellowship into Cross border surrogacy, (and a little nervous as the standard of papers… Continue reading Marce Society Conference 2017

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Resource for solo mums

After yesterday's post about recent research that has shown the children of solo mums do no worse than those raised in heterosexual couples, it seemed timely to let you know about this new book: Dream Come True, The story of a single woman conceiving via donor conception. 

donor conception, fertility, fertility preservation, Parenting, perinatal, pregnancy, Solo mums

The kids are all right

More and more single men and women are choosing to become parents alone, but this has raised questions at times about the potential harm to the children raised in these family unit.  A new study is debunking these fears, finding that children brought up by a single mother do not suffer compared to those from… Continue reading The kids are all right