VARTA is a wonderful resource for families undertaking fertility treatment (including donor and surrogacy). One of the great things they do is generate a whole load of really helpful information booklets and online information sources about everything fertility related. Their website include information for families and friends of people going through fertility treatment - it… Continue reading Know someone going through fertility treatment but don’t know how to help?
There is an increasing dialogue and awareness of the symptoms and impacts of permpartum depression, but new parents are probably less aware of their risk of developing (sometimes quite disabling) symptoms of anxiety during their pregnancy and postpartum period. For some new parents, they will find themselves almost obsessively checking and rechecking the wellbeing of… Continue reading Peripartum anxiety
Unfortunately, this is a question I get asked a lot. Many parents stay in relationships, maintaining toxic feeling of sadness or anger towards their partner, because they believe that an intact family is best for their kids. My answer is always the same. Obviously, an intact, happy and stable family (in whatever form that entails)… Continue reading Is divorce bad for kids?
I am incredibly excited to announce the launch of our new website providing information and support to women and couples who have had abnormalities detected in pregnancy. This website helps guide you through the decision making process of whether or not to continue the pregnancy. For those who do choose to terminate, further support and… Continue reading Support is available after diagnosis of abnormality in pregnancy
The experience of a traumatic birth can be terrifying, and for some women it will take quit some time to recover physically and emotionally. This article gives some simple and sensible tips for how to help a mother who has just experienced a traumatic birth http://babyology.com.au/health/11-ways-support-new-mum-traumatic-birth.html. 1. Validate her feelings and just hear her out… Continue reading How to help a new mother after a traumatic birth
The loss of a child during pregnancy or in the postpartum is an unspeakably difficult event that can trigger a range of responses. For some, there is an urge to conceive again as soon as possible. But how do you know when you are ready to start trying again? https://www.babble.com/pregnancy/conceive-after-stillbirth/ While my husband and I were… Continue reading Trying to conceive again after losing a baby
We spend a lot of time focusing on building resilience in kids, but the truth is, we all need to focus on ways to grow and protect our resilience. This NY Times article describes some simple strategies that can help https://www.nytimes.com/2017/07/25/well/mind/how-to-boost-resilience-in-midlife.html Here are some of the ways you can build your resilience in middle age.… Continue reading Feeling frazzled? Adults need to work on resilience too.
When we grieve, we can feel the we lose all track of time and reality. The smallest and simplest of tasks can feel impossibly difficult. Finding and engaging in simple rituals can really help. https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/03/in-grief-try-personal-rituals/284397/ Researchers Michael I. Norton and Francesca Gino at Harvard Business School wanted to know how people cope with extreme loss. In… Continue reading The power of rituals
Dealing with scary thoughts in the peripartum can be really challenging. Much thanks to Karen Kleiman for this extract from her book Dropping the Baby and Other Scary Thoughts, with ideas on how to manage those scary intrusive thoughts. Dealing with scary thoughts is not just a matter of willpower, as some claim. Although willpower… Continue reading “When your mind races”
We psychologists do love to recommend a bit of gratitude journalling as part of our interventions. The reasons for this is simple: the research clearly shows it helps. Read more on how being grateful, and attending to our gratitude helps sooth our distressed minds https://www.mindful.org/gratitude-changes-brain/?utm_content=bufferf5af1&utm_medium=social&utm_source=facebook.com&utm_campaign=buffer