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Know someone going through fertility treatment but don’t know how to help?

VARTA is a wonderful resource for families undertaking fertility treatment (including donor and surrogacy).  One of the great things they do is generate a whole load of really helpful information booklets and online information sources about everything fertility related.  Their website include information for families and friends of people going through fertility treatment - it… Continue reading Know someone going through fertility treatment but don’t know how to help?

mental health, New baby, Parenting, perinatal, pregnancy

Is your baby sleeping normally?

I really like this advice from Christy Kidner about newborn sleep routines - what I like the most is that she reminds us is takes a while for babies to develop their patterns and routines and we shouldn't get too carried away too soon about what we expect our babies to be able to do.  … Continue reading Is your baby sleeping normally?

mental health, mental illness, Parenting, Relationships

Is divorce bad for kids?

Unfortunately, this is a question I get asked a lot.  Many parents stay in relationships, maintaining toxic feeling of sadness or anger towards their partner, because they believe that an intact family is best for their kids. My answer is always the same.  Obviously, an intact, happy and stable family (in whatever form that entails)… Continue reading Is divorce bad for kids?

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Fertility and Cystic Fibrosis

Did you know that people living with Cystic Fibrosis (CF) generally have significantly impacted fertility also?  For those who don't know,  CF is a autosomal recessive genetic disorder  that affects mostly the lungs but also the pancreas, liver, kidneys and intestine. It is caused by the presence of mutations in both copies of the gene for the cystic fibrosis transmembrane… Continue reading Fertility and Cystic Fibrosis

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Trying to conceive again after losing a baby

The loss of a child during pregnancy or in the postpartum is an unspeakably difficult event that can trigger a range of responses.  For some, there is an urge to conceive again as soon as possible.  But how do you know when you are ready to start trying again? While my husband and I were… Continue reading Trying to conceive again after losing a baby

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Feeling frazzled? Adults need to work on resilience too.

  We spend a lot of time focusing on building resilience in kids, but the truth is, we all need to focus on ways to grow and protect our resilience.  This NY Times article describes some simple strategies that can help Here are some of the ways you can build your resilience in middle age.… Continue reading Feeling frazzled? Adults need to work on resilience too.

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The power of rituals

When we grieve, we can feel the we lose all track of time and reality.  The smallest and simplest of tasks can feel impossibly difficult. Finding and engaging in simple rituals can really help. Researchers Michael I. Norton and Francesca Gino at Harvard Business School wanted to know how people cope with extreme loss. In… Continue reading The power of rituals

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“When your mind races”

Dealing with scary thoughts in the peripartum can be really challenging.  Much thanks to Karen Kleiman for this extract from her book Dropping the Baby and Other Scary Thoughts, with ideas on how to manage those scary intrusive thoughts. Dealing with scary thoughts is not just a matter of willpower, as some claim. Although willpower… Continue reading “When your mind races”

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Healthy weight and fertility

If you are currently trying to conceive, you know that being healthy is super important.  One of the simplest things we can do to boost our fertility is make sure our weight is in the healthy range - and this applies for guys as well as girls. This article from Sciencealert explains more The 'fertility… Continue reading Healthy weight and fertility

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We psychologists do love to recommend a bit of gratitude journalling as part of our interventions.  The reasons for this is simple: the research clearly shows it helps.  Read more on how being grateful, and attending to our gratitude helps sooth our distressed minds