fertility, grief, mental health, miscarriage, perinatal, pregnancy, pregnancy loss

The power of rituals

When we grieve, we can feel the we lose all track of time and reality.  The smallest and simplest of tasks can feel impossibly difficult. Finding and engaging in simple rituals can really help. https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/03/in-grief-try-personal-rituals/284397/ Researchers Michael I. Norton and Francesca Gino at Harvard Business School wanted to know how people cope with extreme loss. In… Continue reading The power of rituals

health, mental health, mental illness, New baby, Parenting, perinatal

“When your mind races”

Dealing with scary thoughts in the peripartum can be really challenging.  Much thanks to Karen Kleiman for this extract from her book Dropping the Baby and Other Scary Thoughts, with ideas on how to manage those scary intrusive thoughts. Dealing with scary thoughts is not just a matter of willpower, as some claim. Although willpower… Continue reading “When your mind races”

fertility, health, perinatal, pregnancy

Healthy weight and fertility

If you are currently trying to conceive, you know that being healthy is super important.  One of the simplest things we can do to boost our fertility is make sure our weight is in the healthy range - and this applies for guys as well as girls. This article from Sciencealert explains more http://www.sciencealert.com/trying-to-conceive-think-about-what-you-re-eating The 'fertility… Continue reading Healthy weight and fertility

mental health, mental illness, perinatal

Gratitude

We psychologists do love to recommend a bit of gratitude journalling as part of our interventions.  The reasons for this is simple: the research clearly shows it helps.  Read more on how being grateful, and attending to our gratitude helps sooth our distressed minds https://www.mindful.org/gratitude-changes-brain/?utm_content=bufferf5af1&utm_medium=social&utm_source=facebook.com&utm_campaign=buffer

donor conception, fertility, fertility preservation, New baby, Parenting, perinatal, pregnancy, Solo mums

Solo parenting

As more and more people choose to become parents on their own using fertility treatment, it is great to see stories like this one hitting the mainstream media.  A few weeks ago, SBS's excellent program Insight highlighted the experience of becoming a solo parent.  The episode is available to watch here http://www.sbs.com.au/news/insight/tvepisode/solo-parents "This is absolutely Plan A.… Continue reading Solo parenting

health, mental health

Self care for workers in the helping professions

I am aware that quite a few regular readers of this blog are actually other helping professions, so I have decided it is timely to include some resources specifically for them.  Working as a counsellor can be tough too, and it is really important that we remember to take care of ourselves, even if only… Continue reading Self care for workers in the helping professions

health, mental health

Want better sleep without medication?

Getting enough sleep is critical for our physical and psychological wellbeing.  If you are struggling with sleep, be it falling asleep, staying asleep, or getting good quality sleep, the hints in this video might help https://www.facebook.com/mamamia/videos/10154856765445945/

health, mental health, mental illness

Even more on food and mood

I know it probably looks like I am jumping on the "healthy gut bandwagon" but I just think that the evidence around healthy food and healthy mood is so strong it is worth another post.  Michael Mosley is doing a great job breaking down the information on gut health and this link even provides recipes… Continue reading Even more on food and mood

fertility, fertility preservation, IVF risks, mental health, mental illness, perinatal, pregnancy

Does it really help to “relax” when you are trying to get pregnant?

If only I had a dollar for every time I've been asked that question!  I think the evidence on this is really contentious, and there are so many variables that make it a really hard question to answer definitively, but one thing is certain - telling someone who is stressed and upset that they should… Continue reading Does it really help to “relax” when you are trying to get pregnant?

domestic violence, Relationships, Sexual assault

Not Now, Not Ever

Did you know that the Not Now, Not Ever report into family and domestic violence recommended new legislative provisions for information sharing between government and non-government agencies?  These changes are designed to improve the safety of victims of domestic and family violence and better hold perpetrators to account (recommendation 78). Information sharing amendments to the Domestic… Continue reading Not Now, Not Ever