health, mental health

Perfectionism as a problem

Are you one of those people who pushes themselves endlessly towards achieving a perfect outcome at university or work?  Do you feel like your house has to be spotless, before you feel good enough?  Sometimes, just when you are getting close to achieving a goal, do you feel like you must have made the goal… Continue reading Perfectionism as a problem

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Happy 25th Birthday Donor Conception Network

The Donor Conception Network has been going strong for an incredible 25 years – congratulations for 1/4 century of amazing information and support for donor conceived families

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January is over and I find it hard to believe that I have not blogged for many weeks.  A virus that wouldn’t shift blocked my capacity to think for much of that time but now that my energy is returning it really is time to celebrate 2018 as the 25th Anniversary of the Donor Conception Network.

Back in 1992 an article appeared in The Times about a story book for young children called My Story.  Walter and I could hardly believe what we were reading.  A book that we could read to our children to help explain to them about being conceived with the help of a sperm donor!  We contacted Dr. Sheila Cooke from the Jessop Hospital for Women in Sheffield to ask how we could get hold of the book and also to offer ourselves in any research that was being undertaken into DC families (although sperm donation…

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donor conception, fertility, Fertility Resources and Links, LGBTI Parenting, New baby, Parenting, perinatal, pregnancy, Rainbow Families

Resources for donor conceived kids

  Here is another great resource for young donor conceived kids.  Research very strongly demonstrates the benefits of open disclosure for donor conceived children - and really, the sooner we start speaking to our kids about how our families are created, the easier it is!http://booksfordonoroffspring.blogspot.com.au/2017/12/how-we-made-you-by-mummy-mama-lgbt.html?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+DonorOffspringBooksForChildren+%28Donor+Offspring+%3A+Books+for+Children%29

health, mental illness

The impact of food restriction

Ever wondered why you feel so terrible when you restrict your calories while dieting?  Ever wondered what happens when someone has an eating disorder?  The Minnesota Semi-Starvation Experiment undertaken in the mid 1940s taught us a great deal about the physiology of starvation, but also the cognitive and emotional impacts: "Thirty-six men were chosen for… Continue reading The impact of food restriction

fertility, grief, miscarriage, Parenting, perinatal, pregnancy, pregnancy loss, Pregnancy Termination

Confused by the different terms that describe pregnancy loss?

If you are trying to have a baby, or have just found out you are pregnant, you might be hearing all types of words that describe different forms of pregnancy loss.  All the jargon can get really confusing and scary. I like this simple summary of the different terms that are used to describe the… Continue reading Confused by the different terms that describe pregnancy loss?

fertility, LGBTI Parenting, New baby, Parenting, perinatal, pregnancy, Rainbow Families, surrogacy

Choosing your surrogate

I rather like this short but useful guide to choosing a surrogate https://www.gayswithkids.com/7-tips-for-gay-men-to-consider-when-choosing-your-gestational-carrier-2465988294.html  It was specifically written for gay men, but most of the points apply just as well to heterosexual couples and single women choosing a gestational carrier.  I actually like the final point best of all... "Make sure you genuinely like your carrier… Continue reading Choosing your surrogate

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How are you going with those New year resolutions?

New Year Resolutions are tough to maintain aren't they?  Most of us have already "dropped the ball" on the promises we make ourselves by the end of January.  And most of us then blame ourselves for poor willpower etc.  But is that really the reason it's so hard to keep the promises we make ourselves?… Continue reading How are you going with those New year resolutions?

fertility, health, New baby, Parenting, perinatal, pregnancy, surrogacy

Surrogacy – when is it not ok?

I was quite horrified to read of a recent case in the USA where a prominent politician offered significant financial inducement to  female staff to act as gestational surrogates for himself and his partner, then harassed and threatened them when they refused to agree to the arrangement.  https://morningconsult.com/opinions/a-cautionary-tale-when-sexual-harassment-and-surrogacy-collide/ Australian surrogacy legislation differs from what is… Continue reading Surrogacy – when is it not ok?

mental health, mental illness, New baby, Parenting, perinatal

Social support in the postpartum

We know that having solid and reliable social support networks in the postpartum can be a really important protective factor for postnatal depression and anxiety.  Unfortunately, when social networks are not actually supportive, they can end up being harmful and increase our risk of developing depression or anxiety. Did you join a mother's group?  Was… Continue reading Social support in the postpartum