When I first started as a fertility counselling, it was still possible to be an anonymous sperm donor. A couple of years later, the Australian guidelines for fertility treatment (including donor conception) changed, and true anonymity was no longer possible. More recently, some Australian states have changed their legislation to permit access for donor conceived… Continue reading Anonymous donor? Good luck!
Many potential mums who are considering family creation through oocyte (egg) donation fell quite anxious that they are no more than a "third wheel" to their future child - that biology might somehow "trump" motherhood. Often when I am talking to these women, I mention the emerging field of epigenetics, which, put simple, is the… Continue reading What role is there for Epigenetics in donor conception?
With such a huge number of people living with a history of rape or sexual assault, it is astonishing that many services remain somewhat insensitive to the additional needs of these patient's obstetric or gynaecological care. Unfortunately, for many people undertaking routine sexual health checks, attending fertility clinics, having their antennal reviews or delivering their… Continue reading Feeling safe and secure during obstetric and gynaecological care
I have kind of fallen in love with the slightly corny phrase of "diblings" that some people have started to use to describe their donor siblings. For many donor conceived people, learning about and meeting the other child born from their donor is at least as important as meeting the donor themselves - and it… Continue reading I’ve Got Dibs!: A Donor Sibling Story
This story is so amazing and wonderful: it is a real breakthrough for transgender people becoming parents. Transgender Health has described how a 30-year-old transgender woman has been able to breastfeed her child, the first ever case of induced lactation in a transgender woman to be documented in academic literature.This article in The Guardian explains more https://www.theguardian.com/science/2018/feb/14/transgender-woman-breastfeed-health
Here is another great resource for young donor conceived kids. Research very strongly demonstrates the benefits of open disclosure for donor conceived children - and really, the sooner we start speaking to our kids about how our families are created, the easier it is!http://booksfordonoroffspring.blogspot.com.au/2017/12/how-we-made-you-by-mummy-mama-lgbt.html?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+DonorOffspringBooksForChildren+%28Donor+Offspring+%3A+Books+for+Children%29
I rather like this short but useful guide to choosing a surrogate https://www.gayswithkids.com/7-tips-for-gay-men-to-consider-when-choosing-your-gestational-carrier-2465988294.html It was specifically written for gay men, but most of the points apply just as well to heterosexual couples and single women choosing a gestational carrier. I actually like the final point best of all... "Make sure you genuinely like your carrier… Continue reading Choosing your surrogate
Some time ago, I blogged about court proceedings that had been launched in the USA against Xytec, a significant provider of donor sperm in the United States, and also importing here to Australia. The case has finally come to a conclusion, but details of the matter will never be disclosed as the applicants eventually decided… Continue reading Xytec settles out of court regarding inadequate vetting of sperm donor
If the answer is yes, it is critical that you understand the potential implications of using a known donor. The risk of using a known donor, without a clearly defined donor (vs FATHER) relationship, have been recently and catastrophically demonstrated in this situation, where a woman (who does have a partner) has discovered she has… Continue reading Are you considering using a sperm donor?
This is a genuine domestic surrogacy nightmare, and really highlights the importance of all parties receiving high quality counselling and legal advice and completely understanding the implications of undertaking a surrogacy arrangement, LONG before they commence a surrogacy agreement. Ultimately, the outcome of this situation will be adverse for the child who has been born… Continue reading Queensland surrogate in bitter feud with biological parents