fertility, grief, mental health, miscarriage, perinatal, pregnancy, pregnancy loss

The power of rituals

When we grieve, we can feel the we lose all track of time and reality.  The smallest and simplest of tasks can feel impossibly difficult. Finding and engaging in simple rituals can really help. https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/03/in-grief-try-personal-rituals/284397/ Researchers Michael I. Norton and Francesca Gino at Harvard Business School wanted to know how people cope with extreme loss. In… Continue reading The power of rituals

health, mental health, mental illness, New baby, Parenting, perinatal

“When your mind races”

Dealing with scary thoughts in the peripartum can be really challenging.  Much thanks to Karen Kleiman for this extract from her book Dropping the Baby and Other Scary Thoughts, with ideas on how to manage those scary intrusive thoughts. Dealing with scary thoughts is not just a matter of willpower, as some claim. Although willpower… Continue reading “When your mind races”

fertility, health, perinatal, pregnancy

Healthy weight and fertility

If you are currently trying to conceive, you know that being healthy is super important.  One of the simplest things we can do to boost our fertility is make sure our weight is in the healthy range - and this applies for guys as well as girls. This article from Sciencealert explains more http://www.sciencealert.com/trying-to-conceive-think-about-what-you-re-eating The 'fertility… Continue reading Healthy weight and fertility

fertility, fertility preservation, IVF risks, miscarriage, New baby, Parenting, perinatal, pregnancy, Solo mums

Thinking of freezing your eggs… just in case?

An increasing number of women are now exploring the option of egg freezing as fertility "insurance". But does it really stack up to "ensure" that wanted baby in years to come?  This article does a good job at exploring the pros and cons of egg freezing. http://www.abc.net.au/news/2017-07-31/egg-freezing-helping-women-delay-motherhood-but-risk-missing-out/8737308?sf102297805=1 Consultant Simone Campbell from the City Fertility Centre in… Continue reading Thinking of freezing your eggs… just in case?

fertility, grief, miscarriage, New baby, Parenting, perinatal, pregnancy, pregnancy loss

“To the girl who hated my pregnancy announcement”

The announcement of a pregnancy by another woman/couple tends to bring terrible pain to someone who is struggling with their fertility, or has recently experienced an obstetric loss.  It isn't that they mean ill to the happily pregnant woman, it is more that that her joy makes their sadness feel even greater.  It's a really… Continue reading “To the girl who hated my pregnancy announcement”

mental health, mental illness, perinatal

Gratitude

We psychologists do love to recommend a bit of gratitude journalling as part of our interventions.  The reasons for this is simple: the research clearly shows it helps.  Read more on how being grateful, and attending to our gratitude helps sooth our distressed minds https://www.mindful.org/gratitude-changes-brain/?utm_content=bufferf5af1&utm_medium=social&utm_source=facebook.com&utm_campaign=buffer

donor conception, fertility, fertility preservation, IVF risks, Parenting, perinatal, pregnancy

The donor experience

Although this story is from an American site (so the information is not completely relevant to the Australian context) I still feel that it gives a good perspective on some of the unexpected reactions that may occur for a woman who decides to become an egg donor. Remember that in Australia, there is NO paid/compensated… Continue reading The donor experience

fertility, In the news, perinatal, pregnancy, surrogacy, surrogacy project

Update on Surrogacy in Cambodia

We have been patiently waiting to learn the outcome of the legal trial of Tammy Davis-Charles, the Australian nurse who was working in Cambodia arranging surrogacy pregnancies for Australians and other foreign nationals, prior to the Cambodian Government crackdown on the practice late last year.  Well, the sentences came down a couple of days ago,… Continue reading Update on Surrogacy in Cambodia

donor conception, fertility, fertility preservation, New baby, Parenting, perinatal, pregnancy, Solo mums

Solo parenting

As more and more people choose to become parents on their own using fertility treatment, it is great to see stories like this one hitting the mainstream media.  A few weeks ago, SBS's excellent program Insight highlighted the experience of becoming a solo parent.  The episode is available to watch here http://www.sbs.com.au/news/insight/tvepisode/solo-parents "This is absolutely Plan A.… Continue reading Solo parenting