Ever wondered what it is like to have a new baby and develop depression? Ever wondered how someone could have this beautiful little baby and feel so bad at the same time? Ever been depressed and struggled to explain it to the people around you? This video is a quite incredible representation of the workings… Continue reading What Peripartum Depression feels like
When I first started as a fertility counselling, it was still possible to be an anonymous sperm donor. A couple of years later, the Australian guidelines for fertility treatment (including donor conception) changed, and true anonymity was no longer possible. More recently, some Australian states have changed their legislation to permit access for donor conceived… Continue reading Anonymous donor? Good luck!
My heart goes out to this Australian couple who have just had their babies through surrogacy in Ukraine. Unfortunately, the babies have been born very prematurely and the parents are now trying to manage the care of their twins in a foreign country, negotiating in a language they don't understand and with medical insurance that… Continue reading Surrogacy in Ukraine
Helping new mums and dads negotiate the complex pathway into parenthood is one of the best things about my work. So, I was really excited to discover this recent interview on the ABC RN program exploring the topic. Here is the link so you can listen to the entire program https://www.abc.net.au/radionational/programs/allinthemind/perinatal-mental-health/10478792 Making the transition into… Continue reading Transition to Parenthood
Oh, I REALLY like this article from the ABC's Life program about managing the competing demands of parenthood and work! https://www.abc.net.au/life/juggling-motherhood-and-a-career-carla-gee/10325824 This is a topic I spend a great deal of time discussing with new mums in my practice ... because the reality is, for many families there is no financial choice but to have… Continue reading The baby juggle
Many potential mums who are considering family creation through oocyte (egg) donation fell quite anxious that they are no more than a "third wheel" to their future child - that biology might somehow "trump" motherhood. Often when I am talking to these women, I mention the emerging field of epigenetics, which, put simple, is the… Continue reading What role is there for Epigenetics in donor conception?
With such a huge number of people living with a history of rape or sexual assault, it is astonishing that many services remain somewhat insensitive to the additional needs of these patient's obstetric or gynaecological care. Unfortunately, for many people undertaking routine sexual health checks, attending fertility clinics, having their antennal reviews or delivering their… Continue reading Feeling safe and secure during obstetric and gynaecological care
If you have had children, you are likely to feel like almost has everything changed in your life when you became a parent - the way you think, your sleep patterns, your relationship with partner and family, your social situation, your economic capacity, your body (oh goodness, how that changes, especially during pregnancy!!), your house/car,… Continue reading What Happened to Me? Is “Baby Brain” really a thing?
I am doing heaps of research at the moment so I keep finding amazing articles to share. This one from the SMH is a few years old, but is a truely brilliant piece of writing about a personal experience of becoming unwell in the context of having a new baby. Miki Perkins has written an… Continue reading PND -“In a few short weeks, I went mad”
The transition into becoming parent to another person is often described as the biggest (and frequently most abrupt) transition we undertake during our lives. It causes the other common role transitions to seem much more gradual and manageable: becoming an adult has many, graduated steps; becoming a partner is something we can warm up to… Continue reading The transition to “parenthood”