I have kind of fallen in love with the slightly corny phrase of "diblings" that some people have started to use to describe their donor siblings. For many donor conceived people, learning about and meeting the other child born from their donor is at least as important as meeting the donor themselves - and it… Continue reading I’ve Got Dibs!: A Donor Sibling Story
This story is so amazing and wonderful: it is a real breakthrough for transgender people becoming parents. Transgender Health has described how a 30-year-old transgender woman has been able to breastfeed her child, the first ever case of induced lactation in a transgender woman to be documented in academic literature.This article in The Guardian explains more https://www.theguardian.com/science/2018/feb/14/transgender-woman-breastfeed-health
Here is another great resource for young donor conceived kids. Research very strongly demonstrates the benefits of open disclosure for donor conceived children - and really, the sooner we start speaking to our kids about how our families are created, the easier it is!http://booksfordonoroffspring.blogspot.com.au/2017/12/how-we-made-you-by-mummy-mama-lgbt.html?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+DonorOffspringBooksForChildren+%28Donor+Offspring+%3A+Books+for+Children%29
If you are trying to have a baby, or have just found out you are pregnant, you might be hearing all types of words that describe different forms of pregnancy loss. All the jargon can get really confusing and scary. I like this simple summary of the different terms that are used to describe the… Continue reading Confused by the different terms that describe pregnancy loss?
I rather like this short but useful guide to choosing a surrogate https://www.gayswithkids.com/7-tips-for-gay-men-to-consider-when-choosing-your-gestational-carrier-2465988294.html It was specifically written for gay men, but most of the points apply just as well to heterosexual couples and single women choosing a gestational carrier. I actually like the final point best of all... "Make sure you genuinely like your carrier… Continue reading Choosing your surrogate
I was quite horrified to read of a recent case in the USA where a prominent politician offered significant financial inducement to female staff to act as gestational surrogates for himself and his partner, then harassed and threatened them when they refused to agree to the arrangement. https://morningconsult.com/opinions/a-cautionary-tale-when-sexual-harassment-and-surrogacy-collide/ Australian surrogacy legislation differs from what is… Continue reading Surrogacy – when is it not ok?
We know that having solid and reliable social support networks in the postpartum can be a really important protective factor for postnatal depression and anxiety. Unfortunately, when social networks are not actually supportive, they can end up being harmful and increase our risk of developing depression or anxiety. Did you join a mother's group? Was… Continue reading Social support in the postpartum
Many women feel traumatised by their experience of giving birth, but then feel compelled to minimise their experience "it wasn't that bad" or struggle to admit how the birth experience has impacted on them. Things might have ultimately turned out ok for mum and baby, but the birth has left them with a significant trauma… Continue reading Dealing with a traumatic birth
November 12-18 is Perinatal Depression & Anxiety Awareness Week. The Week is intended to raise awareness about perinatal anxiety and depression, including signs to look for and where to go to seek support. Support is available if you are struggling through a pregnancy or postpartum - for help to find it, you can start your search… Continue reading Did you know it is Perinatal Disorders Awareness Week?
Can a woman really fall pregnant, when she is already carrying a surrogacy pregnant? This is not an issue I generally include for discussion in my pre-surrogacy implications counselling for women contemplating becoming a gestational surrogate, but the truth is, strange things really do happen! The process is known as superfetation, and involves the simultaneous… Continue reading An unexpected risk for surrogates!?