My heart goes out to this Australian couple who have just had their babies through surrogacy in Ukraine. Unfortunately, the babies have been born very prematurely and the parents are now trying to manage the care of their twins in a foreign country, negotiating in a language they don't understand and with medical insurance that… Continue reading Surrogacy in Ukraine
Helping new mums and dads negotiate the complex pathway into parenthood is one of the best things about my work. So, I was really excited to discover this recent interview on the ABC RN program exploring the topic. Here is the link so you can listen to the entire program https://www.abc.net.au/radionational/programs/allinthemind/perinatal-mental-health/10478792 Making the transition into… Continue reading Transition to Parenthood
Oh, I REALLY like this article from the ABC's Life program about managing the competing demands of parenthood and work! https://www.abc.net.au/life/juggling-motherhood-and-a-career-carla-gee/10325824 This is a topic I spend a great deal of time discussing with new mums in my practice ... because the reality is, for many families there is no financial choice but to have… Continue reading The baby juggle
Many potential mums who are considering family creation through oocyte (egg) donation fell quite anxious that they are no more than a "third wheel" to their future child - that biology might somehow "trump" motherhood. Often when I am talking to these women, I mention the emerging field of epigenetics, which, put simple, is the… Continue reading What role is there for Epigenetics in donor conception?
I frequently find myself working with people who feels bewildered by the behaviour of their partner/daughter/mother/brother/friend. When I dig a little deeper, although I am clearly not in a position to diagnose someone who is not in the room, it starts to become clear that the absent loved one has features of personality disorder. Quite… Continue reading Loving a person with BPD
A lovely reader of this page just sent this article from last weekend's Weekend Australia through to me and it is SO GOOD. For those of you who have kids and are also working (or maybe studying, or trying to start your own business, or helping out at your kid's school, or taking care of… Continue reading Whoa, slow down – what are we all doing to ourselves????
If you have had children, you are likely to feel like almost has everything changed in your life when you became a parent - the way you think, your sleep patterns, your relationship with partner and family, your social situation, your economic capacity, your body (oh goodness, how that changes, especially during pregnancy!!), your house/car,… Continue reading What Happened to Me? Is “Baby Brain” really a thing?
I am doing heaps of research at the moment so I keep finding amazing articles to share. This one from the SMH is a few years old, but is a truely brilliant piece of writing about a personal experience of becoming unwell in the context of having a new baby. Miki Perkins has written an… Continue reading PND -“In a few short weeks, I went mad”
The transition into becoming parent to another person is often described as the biggest (and frequently most abrupt) transition we undertake during our lives. It causes the other common role transitions to seem much more gradual and manageable: becoming an adult has many, graduated steps; becoming a partner is something we can warm up to… Continue reading The transition to “parenthood”
How wonderful to find a article in a psychotherapy journal talking about perinatal loss. I don't find enough of these types of articles, so I am delighted to see the discussion in the journal of the American Psychological Association .You can find it by this link http://www.apamonitor-digital.org/apamonitor/201805/MobilePagedReplica.action?pm=2&folio=36#pg91 or download the issue in PDF here monitor201805-dl