Infant attachment? What does that even mean?

From the moment we are born, humans are hard wired to relate to each other.  We have an innate urge to build relationships to the people around us. Our first relationships are usually with our parents, and psychologists call this the development of attachment.  The way in which babies build these attachment relationships has beenContinue reading “Infant attachment? What does that even mean?”

Surrogacy in Ukraine

My heart goes out to this Australian couple who have just had their babies through surrogacy in Ukraine.  Unfortunately, the babies have been born very prematurely and the parents are now trying to manage the care of their twins in a foreign country, negotiating in a language they don’t understand and with medical insurance thatContinue reading “Surrogacy in Ukraine”

Transition to Parenthood

Helping new mums and dads negotiate the complex pathway into parenthood is one of the best things about my work.  So, I was really excited to discover this recent interview on the ABC RN program exploring the topic.  Here is the link so you can listen to the entire program https://www.abc.net.au/radionational/programs/allinthemind/perinatal-mental-health/10478792 Making the transition intoContinue reading “Transition to Parenthood”

The baby juggle

Oh, I REALLY like this article from the ABC’s Life program about managing the competing demands of parenthood and work!  https://www.abc.net.au/life/juggling-motherhood-and-a-career-carla-gee/10325824   This is a topic I spend a great deal of time discussing with new mums in my practice … because the reality is, for many families there is no financial choice but to haveContinue reading “The baby juggle”

What role is there for Epigenetics in donor conception?

Many potential mums who are considering family creation through oocyte (egg) donation fell quite anxious that they are no more than a “third wheel” to their future child – that biology might somehow “trump” motherhood.  Often when I am talking to these women, I mention the emerging field of epigenetics, which, put simple, is theContinue reading “What role is there for Epigenetics in donor conception?”

Loving a person with BPD

I frequently find myself working with people who feels bewildered by the behaviour of their partner/daughter/mother/brother/friend.  When I dig a little deeper, although I am clearly not in a position to diagnose someone who is not in the room, it starts to become clear that the absent loved one has features of personality disorder.  QuiteContinue reading “Loving a person with BPD”

Whoa, slow down – what are we all doing to ourselves????

A lovely reader of this page just sent this article from last weekend’s Weekend Australia through to me and it is SO GOOD.  For those of you who have kids and are also working (or maybe studying, or trying to start your own business, or helping out at your kid’s school, or taking care ofContinue reading “Whoa, slow down – what are we all doing to ourselves????”

What Happened to Me? Is “Baby Brain” really a thing?

If you have had children, you are likely to feel like almost has everything changed in your life when you became a parent – the way you think, your sleep patterns, your relationship with partner and family, your social situation, your economic capacity, your body (oh goodness, how that changes, especially during pregnancy!!), your house/car,Continue reading “What Happened to Me? Is “Baby Brain” really a thing?”

PND -“In a few short weeks, I went mad”

I am doing heaps of research at the moment so I keep finding amazing articles to share.  This one from the SMH is a few years old, but is a truely brilliant piece of writing about a personal experience of becoming unwell in the context of having a new baby.  Miki Perkins has written anContinue reading “PND -“In a few short weeks, I went mad””

The transition to “parenthood”

The transition into becoming parent to another person is often described as the biggest (and frequently most abrupt) transition we undertake during our lives.  It causes the other common role transitions to seem much more gradual and manageable: becoming an adult has many, graduated steps; becoming a partner is something we can warm up toContinue reading “The transition to “parenthood””