There is an increasing dialogue and awareness of the symptoms and impacts of permpartum depression, but new parents are probably less aware of their risk of developing (sometimes quite disabling) symptoms of anxiety during their pregnancy and postpartum period. For some new parents, they will find themselves almost obsessively checking and rechecking the wellbeing of… Continue reading Peripartum anxiety
Unfortunately, this is a question I get asked a lot. Many parents stay in relationships, maintaining toxic feeling of sadness or anger towards their partner, because they believe that an intact family is best for their kids. My answer is always the same. Obviously, an intact, happy and stable family (in whatever form that entails)… Continue reading Is divorce bad for kids?
We spend a lot of time focusing on building resilience in kids, but the truth is, we all need to focus on ways to grow and protect our resilience. This NY Times article describes some simple strategies that can help https://www.nytimes.com/2017/07/25/well/mind/how-to-boost-resilience-in-midlife.html Here are some of the ways you can build your resilience in middle age.… Continue reading Feeling frazzled? Adults need to work on resilience too.
Dealing with scary thoughts in the peripartum can be really challenging. Much thanks to Karen Kleiman for this extract from her book Dropping the Baby and Other Scary Thoughts, with ideas on how to manage those scary intrusive thoughts. Dealing with scary thoughts is not just a matter of willpower, as some claim. Although willpower… Continue reading “When your mind races”
We psychologists do love to recommend a bit of gratitude journalling as part of our interventions. The reasons for this is simple: the research clearly shows it helps. Read more on how being grateful, and attending to our gratitude helps sooth our distressed minds https://www.mindful.org/gratitude-changes-brain/?utm_content=bufferf5af1&utm_medium=social&utm_source=facebook.com&utm_campaign=buffer
Perinatal depression and anxiety is horribly common for new parents, but the condition is still really poorly understood by many in our community and often remains undiagnosed and untreated. Louise* is a mother of three children. When her second child was born, things just didn't feel right from the moment she left hospital. "My daughter… Continue reading Perinatal depression and anxiety – family and friends can help
I know it probably looks like I am jumping on the "healthy gut bandwagon" but I just think that the evidence around healthy food and healthy mood is so strong it is worth another post. Michael Mosley is doing a great job breaking down the information on gut health and this link even provides recipes… Continue reading Even more on food and mood
Every day I talk to new mums and dads bravely (or perhaps desperately) putting on a brave face and trying to appear like all is "fine" to the outside world, no matter how badly they might be feeling inside. It appears to be such a taboo to be anything but happy and filled with love… Continue reading You’ve had a baby. How are you really doing?
If only I had a dollar for every time I've been asked that question! I think the evidence on this is really contentious, and there are so many variables that make it a really hard question to answer definitively, but one thing is certain - telling someone who is stressed and upset that they should… Continue reading Does it really help to “relax” when you are trying to get pregnant?
If you haven't already heard about PANDA, they are one of those amazing organisations that just tick away in the background providing incredible services to women and couples in the context of perinatal anxiety and depression. They have just launched their brand new website, filled with great resources for women, partners, and families, as well… Continue reading PANDA’s new website launched