fertility, grief, mental health, miscarriage, perinatal, pregnancy, pregnancy loss

The power of rituals

When we grieve, we can feel the we lose all track of time and reality.  The smallest and simplest of tasks can feel impossibly difficult. Finding and engaging in simple rituals can really help. https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/03/in-grief-try-personal-rituals/284397/ Researchers Michael I. Norton and Francesca Gino at Harvard Business School wanted to know how people cope with extreme loss. In… Continue reading The power of rituals

health, mental health, mental illness, New baby, Parenting, perinatal

“When your mind races”

Dealing with scary thoughts in the peripartum can be really challenging.  Much thanks to Karen Kleiman for this extract from her book Dropping the Baby and Other Scary Thoughts, with ideas on how to manage those scary intrusive thoughts. Dealing with scary thoughts is not just a matter of willpower, as some claim. Although willpower… Continue reading “When your mind races”

mental health, mental illness, perinatal


We psychologists do love to recommend a bit of gratitude journalling as part of our interventions.  The reasons for this is simple: the research clearly shows it helps.  Read more on how being grateful, and attending to our gratitude helps sooth our distressed minds https://www.mindful.org/gratitude-changes-brain/?utm_content=bufferf5af1&utm_medium=social&utm_source=facebook.com&utm_campaign=buffer

health, mental health

Self care for workers in the helping professions

I am aware that quite a few regular readers of this blog are actually other helping professions, so I have decided it is timely to include some resources specifically for them.  Working as a counsellor can be tough too, and it is really important that we remember to take care of ourselves, even if only… Continue reading Self care for workers in the helping professions

health, mental health

Want better sleep without medication?

Getting enough sleep is critical for our physical and psychological wellbeing.  If you are struggling with sleep, be it falling asleep, staying asleep, or getting good quality sleep, the hints in this video might help https://www.facebook.com/mamamia/videos/10154856765445945/

fertility, mental health, New baby, Parenting, perinatal, pregnancy, Solo mums

One Hundred Days of Darkness

Are you struggling with the early days of being a parent - you aren't alone! It is pretty widely acknowledged that the first 3 months or so with a new baby is seriously hard work - this article talks about the experience of surviving the first "100 dark days". http://www.scarymommy.com/100-days-darkness-new-baby/?utm_medium=partner&utm_source=gottman It’s perfect, because it covers it… Continue reading One Hundred Days of Darkness

mental health, mental illness, Parenting, perinatal, pregnancy

Perinatal depression and anxiety – family and friends can help

Perinatal depression and anxiety is horribly common for new parents, but the condition is still really poorly understood by many in our community and often remains undiagnosed and untreated. Louise* is a mother of three children. When her second child was born, things just didn't feel right from the moment she left hospital. "My daughter… Continue reading Perinatal depression and anxiety – family and friends can help

health, mental health, mental illness

Even more on food and mood

I know it probably looks like I am jumping on the "healthy gut bandwagon" but I just think that the evidence around healthy food and healthy mood is so strong it is worth another post.  Michael Mosley is doing a great job breaking down the information on gut health and this link even provides recipes… Continue reading Even more on food and mood

mental health, mental illness, Parenting, perinatal

You’ve had a baby. How are you really doing?

Every day I talk to new mums and dads bravely (or perhaps desperately) putting on a brave face and trying to appear like all is "fine" to the outside world, no matter how badly they might be feeling inside.  It appears to be such a taboo to be anything but happy and filled with love… Continue reading You’ve had a baby. How are you really doing?

fertility, fertility preservation, IVF risks, mental health, mental illness, perinatal, pregnancy

Does it really help to “relax” when you are trying to get pregnant?

If only I had a dollar for every time I've been asked that question!  I think the evidence on this is really contentious, and there are so many variables that make it a really hard question to answer definitively, but one thing is certain - telling someone who is stressed and upset that they should… Continue reading Does it really help to “relax” when you are trying to get pregnant?