The baby juggle

Oh, I REALLY like this article from the ABC’s Life program about managing the competing demands of parenthood and work!  https://www.abc.net.au/life/juggling-motherhood-and-a-career-carla-gee/10325824   This is a topic I spend a great deal of time discussing with new mums in my practice … because the reality is, for many families there is no financial choice but to haveContinue reading “The baby juggle”

How does “talking” help?

A question I get asked very frequently, is how could “just talking” possibly help.  There are probably 2 answers to the question. Firstly, psychotherapy isn’t really “just talking”. It’s much more than a “chat”, and when done properly will require some pretty hard emotional work to be undertaken. The second answer is a little longer,Continue reading “How does “talking” help?”

What role is there for Epigenetics in donor conception?

Many potential mums who are considering family creation through oocyte (egg) donation fell quite anxious that they are no more than a “third wheel” to their future child – that biology might somehow “trump” motherhood.  Often when I am talking to these women, I mention the emerging field of epigenetics, which, put simple, is theContinue reading “What role is there for Epigenetics in donor conception?”

Loving a person with BPD

I frequently find myself working with people who feels bewildered by the behaviour of their partner/daughter/mother/brother/friend.  When I dig a little deeper, although I am clearly not in a position to diagnose someone who is not in the room, it starts to become clear that the absent loved one has features of personality disorder.  QuiteContinue reading “Loving a person with BPD”

Whoa, slow down – what are we all doing to ourselves????

A lovely reader of this page just sent this article from last weekend’s Weekend Australia through to me and it is SO GOOD.  For those of you who have kids and are also working (or maybe studying, or trying to start your own business, or helping out at your kid’s school, or taking care ofContinue reading “Whoa, slow down – what are we all doing to ourselves????”

Feeling safe and secure during obstetric and gynaecological care

With such a huge number of people living with a history of rape or sexual assault, it is astonishing that many services remain somewhat insensitive to the additional needs of these patient’s obstetric or gynaecological care.  Unfortunately, for many people undertaking routine sexual health checks, attending fertility clinics, having their antennal reviews or delivering theirContinue reading “Feeling safe and secure during obstetric and gynaecological care”

What Happened to Me? Is “Baby Brain” really a thing?

If you have had children, you are likely to feel like almost has everything changed in your life when you became a parent – the way you think, your sleep patterns, your relationship with partner and family, your social situation, your economic capacity, your body (oh goodness, how that changes, especially during pregnancy!!), your house/car,Continue reading “What Happened to Me? Is “Baby Brain” really a thing?”

PND -“In a few short weeks, I went mad”

I am doing heaps of research at the moment so I keep finding amazing articles to share.  This one from the SMH is a few years old, but is a truely brilliant piece of writing about a personal experience of becoming unwell in the context of having a new baby.  Miki Perkins has written anContinue reading “PND -“In a few short weeks, I went mad””

The transition to “parenthood”

The transition into becoming parent to another person is often described as the biggest (and frequently most abrupt) transition we undertake during our lives.  It causes the other common role transitions to seem much more gradual and manageable: becoming an adult has many, graduated steps; becoming a partner is something we can warm up toContinue reading “The transition to “parenthood””

Can we really change our brains?

There is a lot of talk currently about neuroplasticity – the idea that we can rewire our brain.  But what does this really mean?  How does it happen?  Why is it important? An important part of the work of a psychologist is helping people to change behaviour, to learn new ways of thinking and behaving,Continue reading “Can we really change our brains?”